Positive Thinking – Anger

We all get angry sometimes. The question is what do we do with this anger and do other people suffer. We will look at 2 points of anger: a. right at the time of anger and with the person right there with you b. Later on if you are still angry.

AT THE POINT OF ANGER WITH PERSON RIGHT THERE

Sometimes when a person gets mad at somebody they can say things that are hurtful and can have consequences. Yelling at your boss, saying something mean to your family or a friend, breaking something, or …..

You can feel the anger surging up thru your body. At this time you have choices: you can get angry and say something stupid or you can go into your Anger Plan and center yourself and then reply in a nice manner.

BEING WITH PEOPLE

When being with people it helps to have part of your Awareness focused on your chest which radiates good feelings toward people. Part of your Awareness is in your mind and brain area and part is in your chest radiating good feelings. Try this, imagine good feelings flowing out from your chest to the people around you. 

Why do this? Anger comes from your Inner Mind (subconscious) and is located in your head. By moving part of your Awareness to your chest and heart you lessened the chances of anger by a big margin. Also smile. When you smile your Inner Mind is put in a better mood and that lessens your chances of getting angry. It also makes the other person in a better mood so if they do say something that would normally get you angry they will say it in a nicer manner. 

YOUR ANGER PLAN

It’s important to have a plan for Anger and have it ready to kick in right away. Here are some ideas to help you make one.

• Have part of awareness focused on heart and chest
• Smile
• Use ‘relax relax’ or Peace self hypnosis
• Watch out for Anger. Be on the lookout for a possible Anger situation
• Say to yourself “Stop Stop”.
• Catch yourself before you say something bad
• Think of the costs of being angry
• Think how the other person will feel when you get angry at them
• Say something nice to person
• Maybe scream inside your Mind
• Or flex some muscles
• Or stomp floor a little bit with your foot
• Do something with your body such as above
• Change Subject if possible
• Shake his hand
• Ask yourself “What Can I Do?”

EXAMPLE – With your Boss

Following is an example of using ‘relax relax’ self hypnosis for Anger. Your Boss has some words for you about you screwing up. You can do this without self hypnosis.

• Say STOP STOP to yourself in your head
• Next say the words ‘relax relax’ ‘relax relax’
• Imagine a wave of relaxation flowing thru your body
• Smile
• All can be done in a few seconds
• Respond to your Boss in a polite manner

STILL ANGRY LATER

Here are some ideas for letting go of Anger later on. You can use self hypnosis or not.

• Use ‘relax relax’, Peace, or Strong self hypnosis
• Meditate
• Exercise
• Ask yourself “What’s going on?”
• “What Happened”
• “What can I do about this?”
• Forgive yourself if needed
• Apologize if possible to person
• Later say something nice to person
• Forget about it and move on
• Resolve to not get angry again
• See yourself going thru your ‘Anger Plan’
• Go thru your body and tense one muscle and let go and go to the next one. For example tense arm muscles and let go and next tense chest muscles and let go and proceed to other muscles
• Make Up Your Own

EXAMPLE – Being Angry Later

Use Peace self hypnosis. 

• Say: My shoulders, arms and hands are at peace 
• My chest and stomach are at peace
• My back is at peace. I am at peace
• Review the situation
• Ask “What was going on with me?”
• “What did I learn?”
• Forgive myself
• Imagine yourself somewhere you love to go for a vacation
• Have fun
• Say “I wake up to a good day” on the count of 5,  5.4.3.2.1.

SELF HYPNOSIS INSTRUCTIONS

You can keep your eyes open or closed. Peace is usually closed, strong open, and ‘relax relax’ can be either. First read the self hypnosis script to get an idea of what it is. Then read these lines one by one and follow what is says until you get the script in your head and then let them unfold in your mind. Deep is not needed. 

Note – As in all my Posts these are ideas you can use as they are, you can modify, delete some parts, make up your own, whatever is best for you. It’s important you have a plan for Anger and use it when needed.

MAKE YOUR ACTION PLAN A HABIT

Practice by imagining a situation where you could get angry and use your Action Plan and it works out really good. Watch out for a possible angry situation and get ready with your Action Plan so you stay cool. We want to turn your Action Plan into a habit so it automatically goes into effect in an angry situation.

I hope this helps you.

Garry Waligore Hypnotist

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