I think everyone has some bad memories and mine make me feel sad and depressed. I’m 72 and lately I have had a lot. So what do we do? Here are two ways.
PLAN A. Make a list of 5 or more good memories in detail. Whenever the bad ones comes think about a good one right away. Some of my good memories are playing sandlot baseball as a young kid with my friends, getting a lionel train for Christmas when I was 6 years old, watching a Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young concert, the first time I saw Molly my wife, having a giraffe eat out of my hand. So when a bad one comes up just daydream about one of your good memories.
PLAN B. Let them play out in your mind for a few moments and ask yourself: “What was going on?” after awhile ask:”What did I learn?” Perhaps sometimes you may learn something valuable and sometimes you may learn that ‘shit happens’. Next let a good memory come up.
PLAN C. Visualize reaching your goal, or walking on a sunny beach in Hawaii, or having fun with your family, or whatever is good.
PLAN D. If bad memories are overwhelming you and causing you a lot of pain you might want to go to a Therapist or Hypnotherapist to help you with them.
You can also use self hypnosis when you have time to make it more powerful especially for Plan B. Self Hypnosis really helps you and you can do it yourself and it is free. With self hypnosis you give yourself suggestions to feel better after a bad memory, reach your goal, lose weight, or whatever you are working on. Online it might be harder to learn self hypnosis however all you need is a light feeling of ‘peace’ or ‘strength’ or feeling of ‘relaxation’ coming over you. Just say the script slowly and let the feeling come over you. The audio tracks also are self hypnosis.
I teach five types of self hypnosis: Peace, Strong, audio tracks, EFT, ‘relax relax’ self hypnosis. Here we will use ‘Peace’ and ‘relax relax’
Peace self hypnosis relaxes the body and mind and allows your Inner Mind to come into Awareness a little. People experience this during a massage, an engrossing movie at the theater, in a recliner listening to soft music and just before sleep.
The ‘relax relax’ self hypnosis is used when you are under stress and muscle tension. It sends a wave of relaxation down thru your body. And your stress or tension level goes down and you feel better. Or it can be just used on the one tense part of your body. I have my tension in my face muscles so I just focus on these muscles and say ‘relax relax’ and they relax.
Just repeat the words ‘relax relax’ and feel a wave of relaxation flow down thru your body. And the cravings, stress, anger whatever will go down and you will feel better. You can just focus on the tense area of your body and say ‘relax relax’ and this area relaxes. To start imagine it happening. Takes time.
For Peace self hypnosis you can say ‘at peace’ or ‘relaxing’ or ‘heavy’ whichever you want and use it thorough out the exercise. I use heavy. Can I use it while working? Yes it only takes a few seconds just make sure you are in a safe place.
My shoulders, arms and hands are ‘at peace’ or ‘relaxing’ or ‘heavy’
My chest and stomach are at peace
My back is at peace. I am at peace
You can keep your eyes open or closed. Peace is usually closed, strong open, and ‘relax relax’ can be either. First read the self hypnosis script to get an idea of what it is. Then read these lines one by one and follow what is says until you get the script in your head and then let them unfold in your mind. Deep is not needed.
For Peace self hypnosis you have more than one choice of words to use i.e. ‘at peace’, ‘relaxing’, ‘heavy, either one is good just use the same one thru the whole self hypnosis.
Note These Posts will be part of my Positive Thinking Workbook. After enough Posts I wilI put them together and will post it. Everything here are suggestions which you can modify, change, ignore or make up your own. They are also good starting points.